Aspie meltdowns

By Jessika Endsley

Transcript

Hi, this is Dizzy and I got my webcam to work, yay! It's still duct-taped to my laptop, which was falling apart, but we do what we can in the town where Duck Dynasty is, okay? I'm a fan. Anyhow, Asperger's meltdowns, since it's Autism Awareness month. I would like for it to be "Acceptance" month, as I've said in my prior video. So, meltdowns in adults with Asperger's. Meltdowns are neurological, not emotional, Okay? Breakdowns are emotional. If you have an emotional breakdown, you're not having a meltdown. A meltdown is more of an autistic thing than a breakdown. It's a symptom of being overwhelmed. When things are not in order, a meltdown can happen. A friend that I know said about people not understanding how it's difficult to go up and get fries if you ordered something and they forgot the fries to put it in the bag, other people would be like, "Just go up and get it." And that's very difficult, because that involves getting up, walking to the right person, explaining what happened with words to make them comprehend what you're talking about, and that could be extremely difficult for us, because there's just a level of it not being logical. The fries are supposed to be in the bag; things are out of order. It's just not cool.

aspergers-meltdownAnd therefore it takes a bit of thinking and a bit of bravery for us to do certain things like that. Meltdowns aren't temper tantrums. They're not really anger-induced. They can be, but that's different. They're not anxiety attacks. Anxiety usually is what contributes to a meltdown, though. Most people who have Asperger's syndrome and autism have high levels of anxiety. If a person feels like they're on the verge of a meltdown, it is best to, as I have said in other videos, just stop everything. Your sensory overload is probably through the roof, you need to go curl up in bed with a heavy blanket. You need to turn the light off. You need to get away from sound. Of course, this is not always possible in public settings, which is where we run into problems, because if people see an adult having a meltdown, they assume insanity. They don't think about the fact that it's the same thing as the kid over there with autism who's having a meltdown because something wasn't right or the peas touched the potatoes, or something.

Trying to stop a person having a meltdown with insults is a very bad idea. I have experienced this and it just makes the meltdown worse. Anyone who is having a meltdown is overwhelmed, and often in the autistic spectrum, that is due to just sensory stimuli, lights, sounds, like I said before: Too much talking, too much information, someone telling you a long story. Long-winded people often have Asperger's, but long-winded people without Asperger's can be extremely dull for us. We don't quite care about a lot of things. That doesn't mean we're not interested, it's just hard for us sometimes to swallow because we're thinking about something else all the time. We tend to have racing brains.

aspergers-meltdownA meltdown isn't an over-reaction. If you're a female Aspie, you're gonna be told you're overreacting or that you're PMS-ing, which is extremely offensive. If you have a meltdown and someone sees it. If you're like me, you repress your meltdowns. I repress mine to the point that I end up having one every few months because it just gets so bad. I don't want to admit that I feel like having a meltdown, therefore, I do not allow myself to have the meltdown. I stim a lot. I've gotten very good at controlling my meltdowns, but that doesn't mean they don't happen. Maybe suppressing them and things isn't the best idea. You have to get away from what's causing it, just for a little bit. It's a horribly embarrassing experience for, I'm pretty sure everybody on the spectrum, because it's a total display of un-control of yourself. As generally placid people, a meltdown is just like a personality flip. It's not really, but that's what it appears to be for people who don't know what's going on.

It can lead to hospitalization. Sometimes it presents with screaming, hurling things, hitting your head, excessive stimming, shrieking and just damaging stuff, hitting the wall, just... A melt down. It's not hard to figure out what that means. But there can be head-hitting in autistic meltdowns. Meltdowns don't tend to be violent towards other people. The throwing of objects could indicate that someone could get hurt, but it's never... It's not an intentional, like "I am coming after you," type thing. People need to understand meltdowns a little better, because they happen, and if you what a friendship, relationship, marriage with someone who have Asperger's, you're going to probably see one at least once. Even if you're pretty well-controlled, like I am, like I said, every few months it overflows. And I'm usually alone when that happens, but like I said, I don't even like to admit to myself that I feel like having a meltdown.

Anyhow, that's what I'm talking about today, for now, is meltdowns. Thank God the webcam, is back on my laptop duct-taped up all nice and pretty. Anyhow, I hope everybody is having a good day, and is trying to learn more and make autism more accepted. And I hope that the people who just want to cure it, shut up. Thank you, and have a good day.

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1.  MrPERPS    Friday, February 26, 2016

wow,,,im so proud of anyone who lives with Aspergers and holds thier heads high and keeps smiling bright despite the isolation they face,,,in a world of closed minded, loud, greedy, idiots,, people like you are hard to find,,,,thank god for aspies,,,, im relatively new to knowledge of the spectrum, i only just met my girlfriend who has Aspergers,,we clicked instantly,, im overly sensitive to the world and an introvert myself and at odds with people who were outgoing and popular, my gifriend told me she was an aspie 3weeks after we met online i think she told me as we were seriously falling in love, i love her honesty and value her and the way she is, i flew across the country to see her in person 5 days before she was due to leave and i wouldnt be able to see her for a while, it was a little awkward upon our first hour together, i admire her courage to meet me at the train, and at forst no contact and walking a metre apart, i had read enough about aspergers prior to meeting that i was able to put her at ease,when at first she stumbled on words and sounded very edgy, she quickly adapted to the situation with gentle calm approach, when she opened up i found the most incredibly smart and funny side to her, it seems in life the most amazing caring smart earnest people are imprisoned behind a wall due to aspergers and built only higher by peoples narrow minded assumtions of what is normal, i couldnt be happier with this girl and im almost thankful such beautiful souls are locked behind this door to which you must earn the key through love and true understanding to open perhaps it is a blessing for the aspie aswell as the ones lucky enough to break the norm and attempt to break through that barrier to earn the trust of such trustworthy individuals, i know i was lucky to find my aspie and would never jeopardise our partnership by not seeing from from her perspective how she views the world, aspies are a rare and lucky find



2.  KZ    Thursday, March 9, 2017

Thank you - great description! I didn't find out I was an aspie until last year at the age of 56. I just thought I was a weird introvert - until I started looking back at all of my failed relationships, and the intense work relationships. I usually have to leave a job after 7 years max. I'm very good at what I do so that's not usually a problem. The problem is that I will usually at some point have a type of meltdown at work with my supervisor and from that point on everything at work sucks. I'm at a place now where people are very open and accepting of differences. I am hoping I can keep it together for 10 years until retirement! Having this information has made a world of difference in both my work and personal relationships. I'm rebuilding a relationship with one of my adult children. The other two will barely speak to me. I get it. My spouse is super supportive and reads up on this as well. They are, we found out after marriage, bipolar. So a bipolar - aspie household can be very interesting and intense. Thanks for sharing!



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