Narcissist and Psychopath as Best Friends
By Jessika Endsley
Hi, this is Dizzy, and I'm going to talk about friendships between people with narcissistic personality disorder and people who are psychopaths or sociopaths, also known as anti-social personality disorder. I'm really not sure why I'm doing this except may be to alert people. So, this is how it goes. Let's pretend a psychopath and a narcissist are best friends. They meet and they just end up being friends, okay? The narcissist will possibly be drawn to the psychopath because psychopath's probably charming, has a lot of qualities a narcissist would want. Remember the narcissists don't have a much of a conscience, but they still kinda do, and they have low self-esteem even though they pretend they don't and they don't think they do. It's really a protective mechanism, the narcissist qualities, because they're so low in their self-esteem. A psychopath is not. A psychopath really does think there's a bomb.
Narcissists will hang on to the psychopath for conversation, for narcissistic feed basically, or possibly just because they see the psychopath as an extension of themself, and if psychopath has good qualities that they would want, then obviously they are going to hang on to them, or may be just someone to talk to. Contrary to popular belief, narcissists do not tend to have a lot of friends, not in adulthood. They will add people on Facebook until they have a zillion friends, but they don't really know most of them. Nobody wants to hang out with a narcissist in general. So if they meet somebody who will talk to them and they can hang on to, they're going to do it. So if this person is a psychopath, the psychopath is going to hold on to the narcissist as a friend, just in case. Just in case they need something from the narcissist, or they can use them...
What the psychopath is doing with the narcissist is using their main skill which is to successfully and fluently identify vulnerability in anybody. We know that a narcissist's main vulnerability is their self-esteem, their ego, and psychopaths identify this without thinking much. They don't actively say, "Oh, I'm going to hang on to this person so that I can use them later, or because they have something I want." It just happens. It's auto-pilot. It's like an animal instinct. They're predatory. They're much more predatory than a narcissist. They identify these emotions in people and these vulnerabilities. It's like the opposite of Asperger's. We can't identify much of anything. So a psychopath is hanging on to the narcissist just in case they need something. And it could be really anything. The narcissist has money, the narcissist has a car, and the psychopath may not, or they just can sense something about the narcissist that they might be able to use. So why not just keep someone around in case... So they become close. The narcissist and the psychopath. And... What was I about to say? That's not good. I'm too young to be losing my memory. Okay. So they get close and the psychopath starts being a psychopath and doing things that freaks the narcissist out or damage the narcissist repeatedly.
Remote control destruction of someone's life is a very, very intense quality of a psychopath, and they will do this over and over, and the narcissist is going to hold on. They are probably going to cut the psychopath off a few times, but they are going to come crawling back probably, as long as it's not a violent encounter, which it's usually not. And the psychopath once they've already done the damage, they are over it. So the narcissist comes crawling back, psychopath accepts. That's one of the more disturbing qualities of a psychopath is they will totally slip out and cause all kinds of problems and destruction and torments and when they're done, it's like it never happened. They'll accept cheating spouses back and everything, because if they're still useful, why not, right? That's how it works.
So the narcissist will keep coming back, keep coming back, and the narcissist is getting damaged, but they are getting their narcissistic favor in a psychopath. The psychopath might know this and be overly nice to the narcissist. Keep them around, feed their ego, tell them, "You look great!" All that crap. Just using the superficial charm, and once the psychopath has used up the narcissist for whatever the narcissist was giving them to keep them around, they'll just leave, possibly with tons of destruction behind them and just be out. And the narcissist is standing there like, "What just happened? And who can I find to supply me with my feed now?" We're talking about two types of people who have very little empathy. They don't really care about each other. They'll miss each other but that's because of what they're getting from each other, not because they actually feel anything, like most people would. It doesn't matter how close they were.
And they will part ways. Psychopath probably will just get up and leave and then they move on to the next victim. Psychopath probably already has a bunch of the other ones at the same time, and the narcissist might already have other sources of their supply. So, that's just one instance of a narcissist and a psychopath being friends. Close friends anyway. So, I think it'll make a good book. Maybe I should work on that.
Anyhow, for your information and entertainment, narcissists and psychopaths as best friends. Everybody have a good day, and tell me what kind of video you all want me to make, because I'm out of ideas right now. So, drop a comment. Bye.