Narcissistic Personality Disorder
By Jessika Endsley
Hi, this is Dizzy. I'm going to talk about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. NPD is not well-understood by laymen. People tend to say someone's a narcissist, meaning they like to look in the mirror all the time or they spend a lot of time on their appearance or they're vain and they love themselves. That is not what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is at all. NPD is much more dangerous than that. All people have traits of narcissism, but NPD is a whole new animal and it does differ from psychopathy, but it has a lot of similarities to psychopathy. All psychopaths are narcissists, but all narcissists aren't psychopaths. But they have so many traits in common that it can be hard to tell them apart.
Narcissists lack empathy. They feign empathy, but that's usually just to gain narcissistic supply. They're not purposely harmful or evil, and they're usually not self-aware, but they tend to be abusive. They just don't mean to. A psychopath would mean to. They like to cause harm and see what it does. It's not calculated like a psychopath when a narcissist is abusive. Narcissists don't understand normal people, like altruistic behaviour and selflessness is very foreign to narcissists. All of their empathy is inverted, meaning they are the center of their universe. They're not only the sun, but they're all the other stars, too; the Earth, the moon, Pluto, Neptune and all the other galaxies.
Narcissists need people, unlike psychopaths. They need people to maintain their sense of superiority. They'll often choose friends who are not as smart as they are, especially if you're a cerebral narcissist and they'll choose less attractive people if they're somatic narcissists. Spotting someone who has NPD could be hard, because it looks so much like psychopathy and because they can come across like they're actually just pretty normal, maybe a little bit arrogant or maybe just confident. Their body language is something to look at. They have a flair for the dramatics. They're very grandiose. They like to maintain heavy eye contacts for prolonged periods of time to assert dominance. This is common with lots of people though, especially in the workplace. They will often embarrass others not just so they can harm them in some way, but so that they can make themselves look better and they may do this without realizing they're doing it.
They tend to use professional jargon when they actually have no clue what they're talking about, like if they're going to be around a lawyer, they're going to learn law jargon, or psychological jargon or anything. If they're going to be around a taxidermist, they're going to learn some words that taxidermists would know. Narcissists lie, brag, exaggerate, take credit where credit is not due at least not to them, etcetera. You cannot cure narcissism. If you take away the narcissism, then you take away the narcissist. That's who they are. NPD is actually pretty dangerous because of the abuse that can go along with it. It's not necessarily always physical, but it's emotional and mental. They're a lot like machines; they want feedback, positive feedback.
Their primary emotions seem to be pride and humiliation. They feel very little and they're a lot more like humanoid interfaces than actual everyday people, a bit robotic maybe. They have a goal and that's to get a narcissistic supply and they get it. It's really rare to find someone who actually meets all the qualifications, but you can meet a good majority of them and be diagnosed with it. But narcissists don't think there's anything wrong with them unless they're one of the rare self-aware ones. So you're not going to see one to come to a therapist and say, "Hey, I need help. I have narcissist problem." So anyway, they're out there, especially on YouTube. Anyhow, this is me rambling about narcissism. Everybody, have a good day.